Mark Henry, MA LPC
I counsel men and women who are struggling with anxiety, depression, or stress; or whose relationship isn't working for them and want to feel more in sync with meeting their own needs and those of their partner, and improve their sexual health and well-being.
Often, people come to my office because someone has insisted that they do so, or the conflicts in their relationship is causing too much stress. In addition to those people around them being unhappy, many themselves are stressed, trying hard to make it work, and may be suffering in silence. They are torn between not knowing how to make their partner happy or reassured, and get their own needs met.
Through individual sessions or couples counseling, we will tackle the issues and help you learn new tools so you can communicate your needs better, soothe, feel more appreciated, lower the tension, improve your sex life, and enjoy your relationship.
Counseling can help you Stop Struggling and Start Thriving in your Relationships, Sexuality, Work, and Life
Hi, I’m Mark Henry and if you’re like many of the Portland area men and women I’ve counseled, you’re torn between the struggle of meeting the demands of your work, family, and relationships, while still getting your own needs met. Many of my clients didn’t know what to do and weren’t sure about counseling. Getting on the path to better relationships, a satisfying sexual life, vitality, and enjoyment, took personal courage and a strong dose of encouragement from their spouse, partner, boy/girlfriend, or friend to give me a call. Maybe this sounds like you. I know that the decision to seek help is a complicated one. That’s why I’ve provided some free resources, and more information about me to help guide you in deciding whether to make that call.
You don’t have to just suck it up and do it alone
You don’t have to keep struggling in silence telling yourself this is just the way life is and to just push on through, suck it up. You strive so hard for the gold medal, but end up unhappy, with what looks like a perfect life. The consequences of not seeking help are great, but the rewards are significant.
Marriage and Relationship Counseling
Many of you who are thinking about relationship counseling have been struggling for some time now. If you’re like most, you have grown tired of feeling stressed, distant from your partner, and wonder why it’s so hard to be in a relationship.
Right away, I will provide you with the tools to relieve some of that stress. We will continue building long-term skills that will provide clarity about what are reasonable needs and wants. Through this process you will learn more about yourself and develop greater understanding and compassion for each other.
Certified Imago Therapist with specialized training in Sex Therapy
I am a certified Imago Therapist with specialized training in Sex Therapy focused on helping people develop strong, healthy, and connected relationships for couples who want to:
- Argue less
- Fight fair
- Improve communication
- Heal from Infidelity
- Have Time and Fun together
- Have a Better Sex Life
- Prevent a breakup or divorce
- Feel appreciated
- Build Trust
- Get back to the place they used to have with each other
Common sexual concerns I work with
- Relationship problems that affect sexual functioning
- Negotiation and renegotiation of monogamy/nonmonogamy agreements, or
- Alternative relational/sexual styles
- Differences in libido between you and your partner
- Difficulty discussing sex with your partner or physician
- Anxiety about sexual performance
- When sex makes you feel guilty or ashamed
- Sexual behaviors that you feel get you into “trouble”
- You think you spend too much time thinking about sex
- Sexless or low sex relationships
- Low Sexual Confidence
- Difficulties with erections
- Difficulties with the timing of ejaculation
- Difficulty having orgasms with yourself or your partner
- Excessive porn use
- Aging and Sexuality
- Painful intercourse (Dyspareunia)
- Sexual abuse or sexual trauma
- Body image problems that affect your sex life
- Vaginismus (spasms of the vagina)
- Questions about your sexuality
- Sexual concerns surrounding a chronic condition or disability
Why sex therapy?
Sometimes the way we function sexually can be a problem, affecting how we feel about ourselves and our relationships. It is not uncommon for couples and individuals to experience sex-related challenges at some point in their lives. Over the course of a person’s lifetime family history, stress, trauma, illness, depression, medications, and the lack of self-esteem can often negatively impact a person’s sexual functioning and desire. Sex therapy can help you navigate those challenges, explore sexual concerns, develop skills for increasing libido and enjoying emotionally gratifying sexual pleasure and fulfilling relationships. Additionally, a more satisfying sexual life can lead to more energy and creativity in other areas of your life.
What is sex therapy?
Despite what people might fear, sex therapy is talk therapy. You will not be asked to take your clothes off, or be touched in any way. I am a licensed counselor who has had extensive and very specialized training in treating clients with sexual concerns, and have many years of training and experience working with couples and a variety of relational challenges. Together we will create a safe setting where you can can discuss your sexual concerns and other relational challenges without judgment, embarrassment or shame.
I counsel many Portland area men who are struggling in their relationship and want feel more in sync with their wife, partner, or girlfriend. Often, these men come in to my office because other people have insisted that they do so. Mark Henry Counseling OfficeIn addition to those people around them being unhappy, many men themselves are stressed, unhappy, and suffering in silence. They are torn between not knowing how to make their wife happy, and get their own needs met.
Together we will tackle the issues and help you learn new tools so you can communicate better, feel more appreciated, lower the tension, and enjoy your relationships. My purpose is to guide you to become a better man, not to be more like women.
I also work with men to:
- Lower stress and reduce tension
- Get help for their depression and start feeling better
- Be more productive on the job
- Improve their relationship with their kids
- Identify and calm their angry feelings
- Get out of your head and out of your own way
- Generate energy, fun and laughter
The gender of a therapist can matter. If you are a woman who is looking for ways to develop a closer connection with men, understand them, or work out your issues with the men in your life, I have the training and can provide the support you need. I am a certified Imago Relationship Therapist and will use that as a framework, and a male perspective to help guide you to understand who you are attracted to and why, identify your requirements and needs in a relationship, develop new responses to your triggers in relationships with men, negotiate your relationship agreements, and more
Stop Struggling and Start Thriving in your Life, Work, and Relationships.If you're like many of the Portland men and women I've counseled, you're torn between the struggle of meeting the demands of your work, family, and relationships, while still getting your own needs met. Most of my clients didn't know what to do and weren't sure about counseling.
Getting on the path to better relationships, a satisfying sexual life, vitality, and enjoyment, took personal courage and a strong dose of encouragement from their spouse, partner, boy/girlfriend, or friend to give me a call. Maybe this sounds like you. I know that the decision to seek help is a complicated one.
You don't have to keep struggling in silence telling yourself this is just the way life is and to just push on through, suck it up. Time and again, through my own experience, research, and counseling people in midlife transitions, divorces, and couples, I've witnessed that a greater connection to yourself, your life, and others leads to feeling energized, more fulfilled, creative, successful at work,and healthier. Don't settle for less in your life. Email me, or call me at 888.628.5959. Together, we can get you on the right track to thriving in your life, not just surviving.
What does therapy look like with you?
In 50-minute in-office, telephone, or online sessions, we will identify the problems that you struggle with most. Using support and objective feedback that you can’t get from your friends and loved ones, we will work together to design solutions and assignments that will bring the changes you want.
How does telephone and online counseling work?
For better or for worse, technology has become an essential part of all of our lives – it can even be useful in personal growth work. While using the telephone or Internet for therapy is not ideal, phone sessions or online video conferencing can be an effective and convenient alternative to face-to-face sessions when meeting in person isn’t possible.
I currently use the telephone and the Internet with great success to work with clients in the United States who are unable to visit me in person. You can have sessions with me via your telephone or through Skype, a free, high quality video conferencing program that allows us to see and hear each other using your computer and a web cam (and headset if you choose). Skype is free to download off the Internet, easy to install and set up, is free of adware/malware/spyware etc and, most importantly, is confidential.
If you are interested in seeing me via telephone or ‘virtually’ on Skype at markhenry1, I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation to set things up. Click here for more info.
What are the risks in seeking counseling?
A foundation for successful change comes from being curious about your life. However, examining your life and expressing your feelings sometimes can lead to feeling worse initially. Some of these setbacks can be great teachers, and, with the support of counseling, can be important steps towards your goals.
How often do I need to come?
My clients generally visit me once a week or every other week. This allows you to more effectively make consistent progress.
How will I know if counseling is working?
Within a few sessions we should know whether we are making progress towards your goals. Your curiousity, clarity about your goals, and commitment to change will greatly effect your progress.
You should start to see improvements in your attitude, emotional well-being, and may not experience the same reaction to the problems that you had previously been dealing with. Many of my clients report to me that their loved ones, friends, or co-workers notice a difference and comment that they seem better.
How do I pick the right counselor for me?
It’s really important to have the right “fit” with the counselor you choose, because you will be opening yourself up and developing a relationship built on trust and confidentiality. Choosing a counselor isn’t an exact science, but here are a few criteria that may help you with your choice:
Is the counselor licensed through their State?
What is their “style” of therapy?
Ask how they are able to help you, and if they specialize in working with your unique problem.
I encourage clients to interview a couple counselors to determine which one would best work for them. Also, I may recommend other counselors if I think someone else would better serve you.
What are your credentials and training?
I have a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and Master’s in Education. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor #C1433 through the State of Oregon Board of Licensed Professional Counselors and Therapists. I maintain membership in the following associations: American Mental Health Alliance – Oregon, and the American Group Psychotherapy Association, and the American Psychological Association. Go to Meet Mark for more information.
I think I might be depressed. Do you work with the conditions of anxiety and depression?
Yes I do. We will address the symptoms to reduce and ultimately relieve the pain to better support our work. With the relief of pain, the symptoms can be instructive about the patterns in your life and provide motivation to change. Sometimes medication may be recommended to help relieve the pain and support our work. Research has shown that medication and therapy together increases the success of therapy.
I’m a woman. Will you work with me?
Yes, I work with women individually and in couples, and am happy to talk with you about your individual concerns.
I think that the problem is my wife or girlfriend, but she doesn’t want to come in. What should I do?
That may be true, and ultimately, if the problem is hers, she may want to seek counseling when she is ready. For now, if you’re interested in helping your relationship, you are probably struggling with the effects of her problems, which we can work on in counseling together.
My relationship is ending. Can you save it?
Although I can help, I cannot guarantee that working with me will save your relationship. Sometimes, clients contact me when it is too late for a relationship to survive, let alone thrive. If we cannot save your relationship, we can work together to help you so that you can create a different type of relationship.
Education & Training
Highest Degree Earned: Master of Arts
Discipline: Counseling Psychology
- AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
- Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. I am a AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. (From 1998 to 2001, I was an instructor in the Department of Psychiatry at Oregon Health Sciences University, specializing in couples, addictions, and mental health counseling. Prior to my career in counseling, I was a college basketball coach and a high school teacher.